In Memory of



Obituary for Eleanor DeMelis

Eleanor DeMelis, age 86, of Carmel, NY, passed away peacefully on February 2, 2024, surrounded by all of her loved ones.

She was born on July 5, 1937 to loving parents, Helen and Nicholas LaCava, in Brooklyn, NY and grew up the youngest of her siblings Peter and Jean in Yonkers, NY.

Eleanor and Fred were happily married on April 28, 1956. They enjoyed traveling, hosting get-togethers, and trying new things. As they welcomed three children, Debra, Daniel, and Diane into this world, Eleanor cherished motherhood. The couple set roots in Yonkers, NY as they raised their family, enjoyed the outdoors, and embraced nature. They loved taking the kids on annual summer vacations along the East Coast,West Coast, and on weekend camping trips.

As their children grew older, Eleanor re-entered the workforce as an entrepreneur opening Eleanor’s Poodle Grooming in Yonkers, NY.
In their alone time, Eleanor and Fred expanded their travel destinations. These experiences were very rewarding and relaxing for the couple and their adventures took them to exciting places such as North Africa, Mexico, Brazil, The Panama Canal, Cartagena, Bermuda, The Bahamas, Canada, Spain, and most, if not all, of the Caribbean Islands.

In 1980, Eleanor and Fred tragically lost their only son, Daniel, but Eleanor ensured his memory lived on. Every Christmas she left his gift under the tree and hung his stocking on their archway. In 1996, Fred lost his battle with cancer and Eleanor became a widow.

Over the next decade Eleanor, along with the loving memory of Fred and his spirit, welcomed five grandchildren to the world: Christina, Lisa, Danny, Alexa and Steven. Family is everything to Eleanor and she spent her life loving freely and giving generously. She was a hands-on grandmother who made sure her grandchildren had the best of everything; this included teaching valuable life lessons, encouraging higher education and creating the absolute BEST Christmas memories, vacation experience, plus family recipes.

Eleanor was a hard working woman with many talents. Before retiring in 1997, Eleanor worked in the payroll department at Novartis Pharmaceuticals. She was both smart and resourceful as well as dedicated to achieving her goals.

In her free time, Eleanor enjoyed traveling, bowling, gardening, crocheting, BINGO, family, line dancing, pool days, reading and crossword puzzles. As the family math wizard, she was known for quick math like it was nobody’s business.

Eleanor moved to Carmel, NY in 1999 to be closer to her daughters and grandchildren. She happily centered her life around her family and cherished the time she spent with her daughters, helping raise her grandchildren, caring and tending to her great grandchildren, meeting her sister for their weekly movie dates, having lunch with friends, playing cards, and traveling.

Eleanor welcomed nine great grandchildren, Jack, Arianna, Bailey, Katrina, Olivia, Jameson, Lila, Dominic and Mikey, into the world and nurtured loving relationships with them.

As the matriarch of our family, Eleanor (aka Lee, Mom, Grandma, Grammy, MeMa) led a life with an immensely positive outlook, attitude, and impact on four generations. As a close knit family, our daily lives were uniquely intertwined with phone calls, family gatherings, dinners at home, birthday parties, holiday celebrations, and four generational family vacations. Eleanor blessed our family and our hearts with knowledge, advice, and irreplaceable life lessons. She will be missed dearly and her memory lives on in all of the hearts she touched for future generations to come.